We are born into this world as one and only versions.Everyone has a life that is inherently colorful and unique.
Unfortunately, we tend to keep comparing our lives with those of others. We set lives of other people, such as our father, mother, idol, etc., as our standards and strive to be like them. Consequently, there are people who suffer from depression because they live in a family with an outstanding father, mother, or sibling. That kind of mentality places a large burden on their shoulders.
We even desire to be better than others. If we are not better than or, at least, equal to others, we will feel insecure, anxious, and think we are having a problem.
My dear friend, are you feeling the same way?
Each person’s life with completely different experiences and feelings, really only that person knows.
And everyone has a different life journey, not even twins can have the same life. When you’re not in someone else’s shoes, you won’t be able to understand. As you try to live a life like them, you realize there are downsides to their lives, which you may not be able to tolerate, or may not be able to accept.
In order to live a life like someone else or by someone else’s standards, you may have to make many trade-offs. For example, you see speakers all over the world who are very successful, and you want to be like them. But what you don’t know is that they have to trade many hours of practice with family time. Because for them passion, work, career is more important, while your core value is family happiness. You are the one who can give up spending time with friends to spend time with your children, so when you have to live by their standards or core values, you will no longer be happy.
Each person’s life is a combination of many aspects, in terms of health, spirit, work, family and social relationships, spirituality, emotions….. When you compare the lives of you and the lives of others, often you only see certain aspects, but not others. There are aspects where you feel you are weak and you look at those aspects of them that you find outstanding. You admire, follow, even envy them, wanting to be like them or better than them. You don’t know that you also have things that they even wish for, but these aspects are not visible to you.
And if you see people who are weaker in some aspects than you, you feel reassured, secure, think that you are superior to others, and so you have the right to become a symbol for them, and you even despise them.
When you overcome the feeling that you are superior to others or that you are inferior to others...You are truly liberated. You have self-esteem for yourself, and confidence in your own journey. When you believe that every journey is different, only then will you confidently walk your own path, feel peaceful, happy, and be able to live to your full potential.
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