Living Unconsciously is the root cause of all suffering and chaos in the world
There are tons of crisis in the world: job crisis, homelessness crisis, economic crisis, global warming, girls and woman trafficking, drugs and health crisis, war and pandemics crisis, crimes, suicides, ugly competitions and unethical businesses.
For every chaos, there is one and only reason: unconsciousness.
The Art of intimacy
Sex and sexuality are everywhere.
Sexuality is a fundamental life force.
Hunger, sex, and power games are animal instincts.
About hunger and sex:
You know how animals manage it.
Regarding power, you need to understand that animals also hold it.
Animals have their own territory, and they don’t allow other animals into theirs.
A lion or a dog doesn’t allow other lions or dogs into their premises, if some dog or lion risks it, they will start fighting. So, holding power and fighting are animal instincts.
Sex, hunger, and power-related things to manage, the humans created a lot more complicated rules than animals. Some rules have become a religion or religious beliefs.
You can’t suppress hunger, but you can master it.
In the same way, you can’t suppress your sexuality, but you can master it.
Animals can’t master their hunger and sexuality. That’s why they live a survival life.
Humans are objective observers and rational thinkers, which enables them to effect change or manipulate anything.
Because of any religious beliefs or personal misunderstanding, if you find sexuality to be something bad or taboo and try to suppress it, you will suffer with guilt and stress.
You will become interested in other people’s sexual activities and will become involved in gossip. The person who does not have fulfillment in their life will engage in gossip just to be entertained.
Being part of gossip and curious about other sexual matters is a toxic habit that will accumulate negative energies.
You can’t be transparent with your friendships and can’t get trust in your life.
Sexuality needs to transform into intimacy rather than suppression.
Intimacy is like pollination; it will help you blossom.
What is intimacy and how to have it:
Intimacy is the process of self unfolding, just moving into total relaxation with trusting the process.
Intimacy happens in many dimensions:
Some have intimacy in making love with a partner.
Some monks have intimacy by being non-attached to their minds and feelings.
By simply being objective and allowing the flow as it is without clinging or desiring,
By doing so they eventually access intimacy in mindful acts.
Like walking meditation, gardening, observing nature, and wisdom sharing. That is also a kind of intimacy.
Intimacy means a process that leads to fulfillment.
Where there is intimacy, there will be fulfillment.
Intimacy does not only come from making love and sharing your personal feelings with a particular partner. But also intimacy happens in prayers, meditation, and self-friendship.
Sexuality can drive you into intimacy or lust
In the event that sexuality becomes your lust, you will crave temporary pleasures, and your temptation will limit your access to access deeper peace and joy.
Lust never gives you peace and joy because you are always busy searching for your cravings. It will ruin your time and energy.
But if you can drive your sexuality into beautiful intimacy, you will become deeply focused, calm, mindful, creative,and also graceful in your expression and decisions.
In order to shift your sexuality into intimacy, make sure to don’t go with your animal instincts.
Rather, convert your sexuality into creativity and mindfulness.
Hunger is the same for everyone, but some are very good at their hunger management, and even some spiritual practitioners use their hunger to master their patience and determination.
Some other people are very bad at their hunger management, when they feel hungry they will get angry. They want food. It’s an animal instinct they have not mastered yet.
Some eat a lot, but they still want to eat more.
Some eat less mindfully, and they feel so fulfilled.
So, it’s very clear how much you eat may not give you fulfillment, but how mindfully you eat it will give you nourishment to your body and fulfillment to your mind.
Similarly, if you are sensing your sexual arousal, craving a partner, and have plenty of time for sexual interaction, it may not give you fullment if it is performed like an animal instinct.
When sexuality is consciously organized, mindful acts, even in the moment of making love or any creative activities that will shift into intimacy where you release guilt, craving, and lust, you will start to blossom and be nourished.