Living Unconsciously is the root cause of all suffering and chaos in the world
There are tons of crisis in the world: job crisis, homelessness crisis, economic crisis, global warming, girls and woman trafficking, drugs and health crisis, war and pandemics crisis, crimes, suicides, ugly competitions and unethical businesses.
For every chaos, there is one and only reason: unconsciousness.
Humans have the possibility to have the most romantic, creative, and soul-nourishing relationship. But somehow many humans missed it.
When a person can’t nourish himself/herself while he/she is alone and single, there is a much high chance when they enter into a relationship may they can’t enjoy the nourishment.
Your inner self = your relationship
Which means your relationship is your mirror.
This is a very special mirror even you don’t know it exists.
Whatever the things and discipline you ignored in your childhood will reflect in your relationship.
Your laziness, escapism, procrastination, manipulation, lying, anger, loose-tongued, dependency, fear, insecurity, jealousy, domination, not trusting, controlling others, possessiveness, quickly bored, and expectation, whatever unconscious habits you have, will reflect in your relationship.
For example, you have a pattern when your parents speak with you, you don’t listen to them well, and you will pretend like you are listening.
This pattern may reflect in your couple’s relationship and you may don’t listen to your partner well, eventually, it leads to misunderstanding and conflicts.
From childhood you may have a habit to depend on someone,
Like if you want food, you will depend on your mother’s cooking
If you want to talk with someone behalf a friend needs to do for you,
This dependency may reflect in your couple relationship eventually when your partner does not show enough caring you will get upset or frustrated.
May you don’t mind others’ hard work, efforts, and contributions, and you may don’t know how to express yourself creatively, giving compliments and appreciation, and encouragement.
There are many sensitive things reflected in couple relationships,
Cultural exchanges, personal habits, different viewpoints in maintaining things, and differences in perception and acceptance.
Moreover, your personal habits and patterns will affect your couple’s relationship.
People get married or get into relationships without working on their personal selves.
You need to have tremendous self-awareness and accountability to master your emotion, temptations, and desires. You need to know how to work on your behavior and transform yourself.
A couple’s relationship is a long journey, that’s why it requires patience and acceptance to make it beautiful.
Usually, many couples are impatience and can’t trust and accept each other,
Which will lead to separation or divorce.
What are the fundamental mistakes in a couple’s relationship:
- Getting married because of family or cultural norms
- Sexually attracted and getting into a relationship
- Getting married because they feel they are already aged
- Not able to give quality time to each other, and express consciously their inner feelings and inner world
- Money overspending and less saving, not enough experienced in sustainability
- Controlling each other and also get jealous
- Bullying and disrespectful to each other
- Seeking partnership because of loneliness
There many similar things like above will ruin the couple relationship.
In order to have soul nourishment in your couple relationship,
Don’t rush or hunt to find your partner, and don’t go with attraction.
Let things unfold smoothly. If you feel a crush or love for someone, just keep in observation and build expression and trust step by step.
Let everything happens effortlessly.
First focus on your inner transformation
Improve your patience, empathy, compassion, and art of listening and responding. Being attentive to your commitments, and knowing how to give space and freedom to your partner.
Probably you can get a glimpse of reflections in your workspace connections and business.
When you feel stress in business and workspace, you are the same person, having the same mind. Can have the same kind of stress in your couple relationships too. The mind is the mind. Wherever it is, it will be the same result.
So, in your working space and socialization if you are able to handle everything smoothly and still you find you have time for yourself and you enjoy the way life is, that means you are mature enough to get married or get into a couple of relationships.
Personal life and professional life ( workspace life) are sides of the same coin.
When you become wise and calm
Attentive and responsive
Sustainable and resourceful
You can build a beautiful conscious relationship where you can enjoy soulful intimacy and nourishment.
The relationship is like cultivating and harvesting fruits, and flower gardening Need to care, and main well in every session.
The relationship also moment should have refreshing sharing and exploration. That makes your relationship consciously beautiful.
Sometimes problems may occur with your partner,
They demand or depend on you, push and pull you,
Criticize or give a lot of burdens, if you are in a such situation you must know how to educate them rather than become a victim. When you believe you are the victim you will try to seek sympathy, but when you rise your soul energy and educate your partner and your family members that will bring nourishment to your relationship.
The Relationship is clay and you need to curve a beautiful pot according to your creativity.