The Art of Questioning
Asking the right questions gives you the necessary details, and details lead to realities, and realities reveal the truth. The truth is the source of everything. It can’t be manipulated.
The art of questioning is being on point.
Another is the distractive way of asking questions.
You will ask questions out of your curiosity, but without paying attention to detail, with frustration, or in a reactive way.
So, any fool can ask questions.
Ask the right questions and be on point.
Only ask questions when you are really capable of going into every detail.
Otherwise, just observe everything as it is; that’s better than asking questions.
Only the one who is patient and has a deep sense can ask quality and subtle questions; impatient people can’t do that.
So, do you have enough patience?
Being honest with yourself, are you capable of staying focused long enough to understand in detail the yang objectivities of your situations and the softer yin subtleties of everything in your life?
Your relationships, work situations, health and wellness, the meaning of life, your environment, being secure, emotionally balanced, and being mentally well.
Your questions need to lead you to the truth, not just build on your personal opinions.
The Art of Questioning:
First, make sure you have questioned yourself…
Who are you?
Where are you heading?
What is your purpose?
What can you contribute right now?
Before asking questions about mysterious things or justice in the world, ask yourself:
What level of patience, honesty, and integrity do I have?
How can I improve it?
Your fundamental questions always need to be related to your existence and your psychology.
Why do you have anger, hate, fear, and insecurity related to your weaknesses and strengths, etc.?
How do these exist inside you right now? Question your energies and essence.
- To ask subtle, meaningful questions, first you need to be a good listener; only deep listeners can ask subtle questions. Examine and introspect to improve your deep listening skills.
- Your question always needs to be on point. Where it helps to uncover the details and allows you to explore a truer reality as it truly is, that’s the highest way to lead your time and energy in the right direction.
- Be grounded, patient, and non-biased.
- When your question points towards the right direction, you won’t be wandering and overthinking as obsessively. A right question never consumes your energy unnecessarily. Only your reactive questions will keep you wandering and lost in overthinking.
- When you ask questions related to others, first be aware of your boundaries, and only once that is made clear, ask questions. A wise person never jumps into others’ personal space without first seeking their consent or permission.
- For example, if your husband or wife came late to the house and you were upset, you became reactive. Immediately you asked them right away, ‘Why are you late?’ It will give them the impression that you are controlling them. That’s a poor way of asking questions. Instead, what you can do is take a mindful breath, relax, and smile with them. During a smoother, more balanced, non-reactive moment with your spouse, you can ask them with a smile, “May I know why you are late today?”
‘Why are you late today?’ You may appear to be controlling.
May I know why you are late today? Asking at the right time allows space for more open and honest sharing between each other. Only then can they be more revealing about the reasons why they were late. That’s why any fool can ask questions, but only a wise person can ask the right questions at the right time.
Make sure you don’t subscribe to the notion that you are smart simply because you always question everything.
The ones who ask questions may not be smart. But the one who is able to ask conscious questions, and deeply listens, conquers the truth.
If you don’t know how to ask a question, it’s either a waste of time or leads to misunderstandings and conflicts.
A good questioning ability will set you free into freedom and ultimate possibility.
Scientists questioned the universe’s events. Now we are sending satellites into space and to Mars.
Gautama questioned life in a way nobody had done at that time, and it made him a Buddha.
Why can’t everyone ask good, subtle questions?
The answer is simple: everyone does not have patience and focus.
Usually, when people live a survival life, they don’t have the sense to ask questions because they are busy earning money to take care of their food and accommodation. An average person’s whole time and finances go only for food, security, and accommodation.
In this competitive world, many people don’t have enough time to create higher-level questions. So the shortcut of least resistance is to follow leaders who are more capable of treading the path or following the masses because it is likelier to guarantee safety.
Living in mental slavery and dependency indicated a lack of questioning power.
Questioning is your birthright; never miss an opportunity to question. The absence of questions will keep you weak, and weakness leads to war.
Questioning leads to detailing,
and detailing leads to a more expansive reality,
and reality leads to the truth,
and the truth will give you freedom.