Why do you struggle to manage yourself, your time, energy, money, resources, and lead others? 

That’s the base of your school system and the family you’ve grown. 

In school, you always follow periods and structure, and that could be of little reason for losing the ability to construct your own discipline system. 

Of course, this is not the case for everyone. Some individuals observe the systems around them and learn how to create a system and structure. 

It depends on what kind of focus and mental state you have. 

But, if you are the one who struggles to manage your time and energy; that means when you became dependent on learning things in school, university, and social systems. You became conditioned by these systems to follow everything mechanically without realizing the deeper importance of the system.

 So, your ability to create structure and discipline became weak. 

That’s why you always need someone above you to give structural guidance and create a system for you. 

Your schools and universities made you more dependent than being skillful to master yourself. 

If you have inbuilt leadership, without special training, you will adopt and implement things by more closely observant to everything around you. 

It’s been said leaders are born, not made. 

But of course, anyone can be a leader through consistent practice and being resilient and working smart. 

On top of that, your experiences are a guide for extracting wisdom to leading and mastering yourself.  

On the flipside, Stress, restlessness, or depression sets in when you haven’t conquered your ultimate potential yet.

Many people believe they get stressed, and restless because of work. Any kind of work actually never gives you stress, the issue is with your energy management.  

• The Art of responding to the situation.
• The Art of Acceptance. 
• The Art of resilience. 
• The Art of leading the workflow or team is missing in your life, that’s why you have stress and are not able to balance. 

Work and challenges are good for your brain, the newer challenges you solve, the better you will improve your intelligence system. 

Humans have the special ability to create problems and solve problems. Many of which are one in the same. 

That ability is contributing to the expansion of human consciousness. So, the work is always beautiful no matter what work you choose by choice. The only thing you need to improve is the approach.  

If you only follow the system without having awareness, you will be mechanical even if you are good at management. 

That’s why a majority of people live their lives with a steady reliance on mechanical skills. Without aliveness or soul. 

Moreover, if you do everything spontaneously or randomly, may it cause coordination misalignment and a communication gap between the team to catch up with each other. 

Learn to unlearn, 

and unlearn the way you’ve learned. 

Creating the system and breaking the system. 

That’s a great way to master the self. Don’t be conditioned or habituated with anything. Become fluid like water. A great adaptability according to the situation is what makes the ultimate leader. 

Tune into anything with ease and have great coordination with teammates. 

The Art of responding to the situation: 

The art of responding is a fundamental base for alignment, between family members or at the workplace with colleagues.  

Any two people work together or live together, 

Each individual make choices and prioritizes. Each has different types of opinions and perceptions. 

Different types of habits of both individuals may contribute to challenging, sometimes misunderstood, situations. 

When challenging situations occur, usually people will be hesitant, exhausted, angry, or unconsciously triggered and the reaction to resist the happening makes a challenging situation worse. It will suck your energy. That’s where restlessness and stress can anchor their place. 

·        Be Mindful, always be aware of an individual’s choices and respect each other’s perspectives. Everyone is right in their own way.  

Have conscious communication and create a proper workflow agreement.  Follow up with each other with attentiveness, respect, compassion, and acceptance. 

·        When you involve mindfulness, respect, compassion, and unconditional acceptance in your approach or action.  You will be able respond with more radical acceptance and humility of the other person. The Art of responding will make the impossible possible. Responding is always a constructive and productive path. 

Dear friends, keep improving to respond to the situations and not react.

How to improve compassion and unconditional acceptance? 

• Meditate, Meditation will help you see things in 360 degrees view. Developing a consistent meditation practice will weaken reacting to your personal views – 90 degrees, you only see from your side, not from the other’s side. 
• Listen to everything clearly 100%, A to Z before making any conclusions or judgments. 
• Great listening is a fundamental quality of great leaders. Listening 360 degrees will reveal core values, clues, and truth. 
• Don’t take anything personally or attach to your opinions. Live in the moment to moment.
• Make friendships with challenges by understanding how challenges are helping you to strengthen your mental energy instead of taking it as your burden to bear.   
• Have gratitude, towards challenges
• This may come in the role of your current project, a boss, a leader, colleagues, or with yourself. Gradually all gratitude will shift to the energy of compassion. 
• Every small step will add up
•  Never underestimate saying thank you, giving an apology, a sincere compliment, or appreciation.  Every small thing you do that helps to improve your unconditional acceptance. 
• Be patient Time will change everything. Time is ultimate. When the time comes, things will shift. Just like how the seed becomes a sprout and the sprout becomes a tree. Each does not manifest overnight. Continuous nurturing is the unfolding. 

The Art of Acceptance:

It’s been said, “If you conquer yourself, then you conquer the world” (Paulo Coelho). You can accept others when you are able to accept all your past, present, and future. Everything from your dirty to the divine. When you have unconditional love for yourself, you can offer acceptance to others. 

·        Focus on deconditioning yourself, and practice to come out of negative self-criticism, self-judgments, guilt, holding on, and negative self-comparisons.  Remember the world around you as you see it is your reflection.When you are able to work with your unconscious patterns on a deeper level and begin to conquer yourself, that moment you will become better is the Art of acceptance. 

The Art of resilience: 

Being resilient is essential to recover from conflicts, triggers, and hurt. 

Usually, the person who is resistant will fall into hurt more often.

Acceptance will improve resilience and resilience will improve persistence. Persistence leads to productivity. 

The Art of leading: 

You can lead anyone or anything when you have command of what you are doing. 

·        Have absolute clarity on the purpose of work or action and express clearly to your assistants or supporters.

·        Assign the task with clear guidelines and follow up on time. 

·        Have the command to convey your needs to make things productive. 

·        Inspire your team when they are confused, unclear, or lost. Support each member with integrity. 

·        Things will improve step by step through trial and error. learning from mistakes and losses. 

So, train your team to be optimistic and progressive in the process.

·        Spend your time with an open mind and heart in creative activities.  Be playful with your teams with games. See their spark, and abilities from a fresh perspective. Reflect on them appreciate them and compliment them.  

·        The leader is an example of the art of working. Not a demanding one.  Of course, you can command and demand but when you also inspire and build trust. Once you nurture a familiar bond of trust, no matter how much you demand they know you are right with them. And it’s good for the big vision and productivity of what you are building together.

·        When you build constant trust, your team will work for you soulfully. This is transcending your relationships above the mechanical or worldly pursuits.  

·        Trust will build, by listening to them deeply, allowing them to make a more conscious choice of leading versus following. 

·        Before training them, have the sense to select the right persons in the team. Any person can’t be part of your team. May everyone can’t catch up on your style of leadership or they are simply lazy and biased. 

Check yourself:  Do you have in-build leadership abilities? If not, first be a great assistant. 

Great assistants will become great leaders