Living Unconsciously is the root cause of all suffering and chaos in the world
There are tons of crisis in the world: job crisis, homelessness crisis, economic crisis, global warming, girls and woman trafficking, drugs and health crisis, war and pandemics crisis, crimes, suicides, ugly competitions and unethical businesses.
For every chaos, there is one and only reason: unconsciousness.
Be realistic and rational rather than being nice and suffering
Being nice to others is an easy way to escape temporary challenges or conflicts. But being nice will ultimately block you from your freedom and integrity.
Being nice or good to others is misunderstood.
You will say yes easily to be good but finally, you will struggle to accomplish the “YES” you agreed to.
When you say Yes without proper time management you will get overlapped by different schedules working at once which will keep you in a rush.
Saying yes is important for your growth and to have new experiences. Say yes in a way that will become perfectly in sync with its ecosystem. All works and commitments support each other.
Saying YES consciously, having keen communication, and commanding your action is an Art!
Just like everyone can’t play guitar or piano
Everyone can’t cook like master chefs
Because it’s an art.
But anyone can master Art with practice.
Practice makes you skillful in everything.
Having a great command of your time spending and conscious communication will dramatically give you the space and freedom to live the fullest life.
When you don’t have command of your timeline, you will be easily pulled into unprioritized tasks or activities.
For example, You said yes to your boss and you will finish work in the next 24 hours. While you are doing work, some friend called you to say something that even you don’t appreciate and also you know you don’t have time but you are not able to ask him/her to talk next time.
Because you want to be nice to them.
While you are doing work, you got a Facebook notification,
You jumped to see the comments, and after you start to scroll and you are reading feeds, spending some time there, your rational mind says you need to finish the work,
But your habitual mind asks you to procrastinate, So there is a little mess going on in your mind but you still prefer to spend time on FB, Insta, YouTube, etc.
After lots of distractions, you tried to finish the work, but some parts of the work you don’t know how to do, and you think a lot about a small thing. So you will pause for some time, however, you get over it and rush to finish the work because you need to submit it according to the deadline. But finally, if you can’t make it, then you will try to find excuses.
So, you have not enjoyed the whole process, even during the time you are distracted by social media or wandering with something, while you are entertaining yourself that time is also not enjoyed because you have a conflict with your rational mind, what you are doing is not productive.
So your life and working style becomes rushed and apologized.
The Art of Saying Yes and No.
First learn how to say No then you can have a wise YES
First say No to your habit and pattern so don’t repeat it.
Trace all your habits and patterns which do not allow you to be produced in the workflow.
- Write down some of your lazy habits
- Procrastinate habits
- Rush patterns
- Miss communication habits
- The blurry listening ( you don’t get detailed information in firsthand)
You need to stop all these nonproductive habits.
But you can’t stop just by knowing that you need to stop.
First, create an environment.
For example, if you have a habit of falling into social media distractions.
Turn off all your notifications on the phone and computer.
Of course, you need to keep your phone or the chat box on for particular work-related calls and messages. Apart from that, anything related to your habits you need to remove from your working environment.
Set 45 min time to focus 100% on your prioritized work.
Take a 15 minute break to drink water, and meditate for 5 to 10 minutes. Reset your brain by giving space and again continuing your prioritized task.
If you can do this for at least 21 to 42 days with a proper system.
While your habit patterns will change. You will not be distracted that easily and you have tremendous focus and clarity.
This is how you need to say “NO” to your habits.
Sometimes some people ask you for favors or money for help,
You don’t want to help but still you do it because you don’t know how to say No. so create a system for you, when you need to say No or Yes. Don’t confirm immediately. Ask for some time for a decision.
At that time you must become rational and ask yourself questions: If you say yes what happens, if you say no what happens? Visualize the whole timeline.
According to that, you can say No or Yes it’s up to you.
Never say Yes just because you don’t know how to say No, that will suck your time and make you a victim.
Saying Yes is a beautiful thing!
Only a wise person can justify his/her YES.
Once they say yes, they are so profound at doing things.
Here are some key points to say YES:
- Recall every day before going to rest, what are the YES things you have, and also in the morning recall what are the things you committed.
- Recalling your Yes couple of times will keep focusing on prioritized work, because of this you can say no to any distractions or activities smoothly.
- Always track your tasks and check to listen in check from time to time
- Do a journal about your growth or reflect rationally on all your efforts. When you reflect you will have the clarity to fix some of your communication and the way you handle the work. So recalling and double checking the way you are doing things will make you grow faster.
- When you finish anything profoundly or are not able to finish, evaluate your mistakes or the right efforts. That will help you be conscious about your growth zones and you can create a system for your highest productivity.
Once you master communication, anything in your life will be a lot smoother.
You will never feel overwhelmed with anything and also you have enough awareness to enjoy the things around you.